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Do you feel overwhelmed with your todo list? Is "creating fulfilling happiness" missing from that list? Everyday Happiness with Katie Jefcoat is here to help you. In 2-minutes a day, over time, you’ll discover how to reduce overwhelm and create lasting happiness through Katie’s signature method of Intentional Margins, happiness science, and musings about life. Start your day with a positive mindset. Many of us can get deep in the feeling of overwhelm. The anxiety of our own ambition can weigh heavily on our thoughts and emotions. We lay down and close our eyes at night and our chest begins to feel heavy. More items on the to-do list than the day before. How will we ever going to get off the hamster wheel of to-dos? When are we going to start living life for more than the hustle? As a recovering lawyer and passion driven entrepreneur, Katie knew something had to change. What she found is that you can have harmony, be intentionally productive and create massive impact, all at the same time - without feeling guilty. So she asked herself a simple question: "How can I get off the hamster wheel and how can I show others how to do the same? She knew she'd had a system for herself, but she’d never put it into defining words. On August 15, 2019, she sat down at her dining room table with her friend Jenna (her business bestie). Post-It notes covering the table. This is where she first defined the concept of Intentional Margins. What are Intentional Margins? INTENTIONAL MARGINS™ (n): A buffer of space and time to create harmony between your to-do’s and your priorities. Now you can get the support you need to manage your overwhelm, one little tip at a time. Regardless of the industry, Everyday Happiness blends inspiration with a pragmatic approach to finding Harmony. You'll be encouraged to throw “balance” out the window for a more achievable approach called harmony. Through Intentional Margins™, you'll be encouraged to develop what harmony means to you, by identifying your priorities at work and at home. Every day, we'll end the podcast help you feel equipped to jump off the hamster wheel of overwhelm and go out there and crush your day. --About the Host-- Katie Jefcoat is a community curator, speaker, author and motivator who supports ambitious women (and a few good men) move from feeling hectic to harmonious. As a recovering trial lawyer, she knows first hand what it feels like to have a demanding job. As an entrepreneur with a passion that lights her hair on fire and a busy family she’s in the thick of it with you. Many people strive for balance and think overwhelm is just a part of life. Sadly, the hustle culture and our never-ending to-do list is creating a life where our priorities are getting the leftover scraps of time. Katie introduces people to what she calls - Intentional Margins™ - a kind of life in which they reduce randomness, create harmony between their to-dos and their priorities and intentionally enjoy the meaningful parts of life - without feeling guilty. Without exposure to a different way, we remain stuck on the hamster wheel of to-dos and never find the “balance” we yearn for. Katie works diligently to expose her community to different ways of doing things, because she fundamentally believes we deserve to make time for our priorities. We deserve to live a life of harmony. And it’s within our control to create it. Katie curates a smorgasbord of content related to managing your calendar, handling overwhelm, setting boundaries, reducing randomness, saying no, self-care, the power of your choices, and more in her Intentional Margins™ Membership Community -- which she calls the coziest virtual coffee shop (on Facebook). Connect and learn more at www.katiejefcoat.com.
Episodes
Monday Oct 17, 2022
Monday Oct 17, 2022
How we structure our 24 hours matters when it comes to how we feel at the end of the day.
Transcript:
Welcome to Everyday Happiness where we create lasting happiness, in about 2 minutes a day, through my signature method of Intentional Margins® (creating harmony between your to-dos and your priorities), happiness science, and musings about life.
I'm your host Katie Jefcoat, and I’m still on this kick about how we think about time and how that in turn relates to our happiness. There is this concept called time affluence. Time affluence isn’t about the amount of time you have. It’s the subjective sense that you have time. As opposed to time poverty where you don’t think you have time.
Here’s the thing. No productivity hack is going to increase the amount of time you have in a day. We all get the same 24 hours. And somewhere in there, you need time for productivity,
non-productivity and just plain rest. You might even say you need time for your todos and your Intentional Margins and of course, rest. The challenge for many of us is that most
of our 24-hour block is devoted to productivity-related tasks, which let’s face it is a shortcut to burnout and not feeling fulfilled.
What I’ve realized is that Intentional Margins, non-productive time and rest are buckets of time that I need to keep clear and firm boundaries around. How many of us have grabbed the laptop and plopped down in front of the TV. What are we trying to tell our brains in those moments? We’re certainly not resting, but we’re also not being highly productive. Now, I get it. Cleaning out email or doing some mind numbing tasks can seem like a good option for this hybrid. I don’t know what the answer is, but I’m thinking about it for myself. Everyone has their own way.
Here are three tips to structure your 24 hours.
- Bucket your time into productivity/todos, non-productivity/Intentional Margins and rest/rejuvenation
- Bucket time for sleep
- Keep firm but flexible boundaries around your time so that you can be devoted to what matters at that time.
When we try to hybrid our time, I think we’re doing ourselves a disservice. I’m still working on this myself, but as I’m in it with you, I wanted to share what I’ve been thinking about lately as I reflect on how I spend my time.
Until next time, remember, kindness is contagious.
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Sunday Oct 16, 2022
Sunday Oct 16, 2022
The musings about life when it feels like time is slipping away.
Transcript:
Welcome to Everyday Happiness where we create lasting happiness, in about 2 minutes a day, through my signature method of Intentional Margins® (creating harmony between your to-dos and your priorities), happiness science, and musings about life.
I'm your host Katie Jefcoat, and I just wanted to come on here today and have a conversation with friends about time. I’ll pretend that you are talking back to me and you pretend like we’re sitting at a coffee shop sipping coffee. Deal?
This is the real deal. My daughter is in 9th grade and I’m finding myself trying to hang onto every moment with her, assuming she’s almost out the door. I think about 3 more summers she’s at home and it makes me want to beg for time to stand still. You know the saying: the days are long and the years are short. Well, I’m in all the feelings right now.
It sounds so dramatic to say I feel the time slipping away. And when I take a step back, I know that’s not the case. First, I’m so lucky we have such a strong bond. Second, the invention of the cell phone is also a tether that I am reminded is a link that generations before us didn’t have. She will be able to call me at any time. Unlike the days of the prepaid calling card to call home long-distance. Remember those days?
So, I fundamentally understand this is a chapter and an evolution. And I love that she’s older and we can play board games, binge watch Gilmore Girls and HGTV and she’s so helpful around the house. I want her to thrive, this is why we raise kids. But for whatever reason, this season has hit me. High school has started and I am keenly aware of the timetable.
So, I’ve been thinking about time. How we spend time. Reviewing my own calendar and cross referencing that with my priorities. You know they say that your calendar identifies your priorities because it’s right there for you to see where you spend your time. Time is the greatest equalizer. It is the resource that we can’t create more of.
This is an episode to remind you that we are all in this together. No one is immune from reflection and pivoting. You are right where you need to be. I’m cheering for you. And I am inviting you to reflect on how you spend your time.
And of course, kindness is contagious. You know what to do, grab kindness cards from our shop or just go out there and spread some kindness today.
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Saturday Oct 15, 2022
Saturday Oct 15, 2022
Exploring the concept of “both/and” when it comes to feeling joyful and emotions.
Transcript:
Welcome to Everyday Happiness where we create lasting happiness, in about 2 minutes a day, through my signature method of Intentional Margins® (creating harmony between your to-dos and your priorities), happiness science, and musings about life.
I'm your host Katie Jefcoat, and I was talking with my great friend Wendy Reed, she’s a life and work coach specializing in mental fitness and helping people through stuck places.
The conversation turned to this concept “both / and''. And how we hold and walk through emotions. How do we hold both joy and sadness or joy and happiness? Wendy believes we have the capacity to hold both because joy is the underlying current that runs through our bodies, while happiness or sadness is an emotion.
There is some research that indicates we can’t hold two emotions at once. Like happiness and anger. It’s hard to smile and be angry. Our brains can’t process this. But joy, perhaps this is not really an emotion as much as a state of being.
Maybe that’s the ah-ha moment. To think about what joy is for you. Can you see how it’s the underlying current of your ora, of your being? If that’s true for you? Are you lumping in joy as an emotion when perhaps it’s something different all together?
Wendy argues, and I agree, that even if you are depressed you can find moments of happiness. Even in grief, you can find happiness and can feel joyful.
I invite you to explore what joy means for you. And if you conclude that it is the underlying current of your being, as Wendy suggests, maybe there is an ah-ha moment in this exploration for you too.
Until next time, remember, kindness is contagious.
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Friday Oct 14, 2022
Friday Oct 14, 2022
Celebrating 500 Episodes and a specific ask for you, in this episode of Everyday Happiness.
Transcript:
Welcome to Everyday Happiness where we create lasting happiness, in about 2 minutes a day, through my signature method of Intentional Margins® (creating harmony between your to-dos and your priorities), happiness science, and musings about life.
I'm your host Katie Jefcoat, and today we’re celebrating 500 episodes! It’s crazy to me to think that for 500 consecutive days we’ve been on this happiness journey together. Now, you may be an early adopter and play the Amazon Alexa Flash Briefing every morning from your Echo Dot (I still think that’s the coolest thing to just yell, “hey Alexa, play my flash briefings”. If you want to know how to set that up, there is a link in the show notes. Or you may have just binged 20 episodes on a round-trip carpool afternoon. Either way, we are so glad that you are here! We have a team of women from around the world that shows up in service and support to produce this podcast and get it from my phone where I record in my tiny closet to the internet in a way where you can listen.
We are mission driven to spread happiness and kindness in the world we live in. To positively influence our little bubble around us. One person at a time. To leave the world a better place for the generations that come after us. We are driven to share the message that we can be kind and disagree. That hate has no place in our sphere.
We know from scientific research that when the human collective believes that acting in kindness is the norm, more people will do it and we can make a difference.
We know we can’t change the world - yet. And every day it is more and more clear that we can’t do it alone. As humans, we are not meant to go at this alone. We are designed in our DNA to belong to a community. It’s at the core of our species.
We are inviting you to join a movement that is bigger than yourself. To lean into what feels right in your heart when it often feels like the world is a dumpster fire around us.
We know we need help. It starts with one person spreading kindness, giving a smile to a stranger, sharing gratitude and appreciation.
But here’s the thing, we need you to take action today - so that we can spread more happiness and kindness.
Go on every podcast platform that you have an app for on your phone. Subscribe to this podcast and leave a 5 star review so the algorithm bots will know this was valuable to you. It’s the only way.
Follow us on Facebook and Instagram @everydayhappinesswithkatie
If you have an Amazon Prime account, you can leave a review on Amazon Alexa. The link is in the show notes. https://www.amazon.com/Everyday-Happiness-Finding-Harmony-Bliss/dp/B096BGBYFX/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3DB8OMOLP8KK4&keywords=everyday+happiness+finding+harmony+and+bliss&qid=1665233527&qu=eyJxc2MiOiIwLjczIiwicXNhIjoiMC4wMCIsInFzcCI6IjAuMDAifQ%3D%3D&s=digital-skills&sprefix=everyday+happiness+finding+harmony+and+bliss%2Calexa-skills%2C46&sr=1-1
We are so incredibly grateful and humbled that you would consider locking arms with us. Standing up to the noise and saying, hey, a little bit of happiness is where it’s at. You are a changemaker.
I believe in you. I am cheering you on. And I am so grateful for you. Sending you all my heartful love.
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Here is a link for how to set up your Amazon FLash Briefing for yourself: https://voicebrew.com/alexa-day-30/alexa-flash-briefing#how
Thursday Oct 13, 2022
Thursday Oct 13, 2022
The age of remote working has drastically increased since the start of the pandemic, but does it actually make us happier? Tune in today to Everyday Happiness to find out!
Transcript:
Welcome to Everyday Happiness where we create lasting happiness, in about 2 minutes a day, through my signature method of Intentional Margins® (creating harmony between your to-dos and your priorities), happiness science, and musings about life.
I'm your host Katie Jefcoat and I think we are in a curious time in our US history, maybe even globally, where a lot of jobs abruptly pivoted to home telework in March 2020. Now, October 2022, 2 1/2 years later, a lot of people are still working from home in the US. If not 100% of the time, at least part of their week. It feels like how we work is changing.
There is this dialog around work-life balance. Is it balanced when you wear the same athleisure to work at home as you do when you are not working at home? Are we more tied to our work because we can’t have that separation?
There is no question, in general, we are learning to adapt at home. We have make-shift offices, some at the dining room table.
I was curious about how our commute or lack of commute impacts our happiness. People say it’s great to not have to go into the office, to get back that time that would otherwise be spent on the commute. But I wonder if working from home is actually making people happier. As happy as they thought they would be.
Now, the science is still new on this, and not quantitative enough to make any findings but there is a growing school of thought that people still need human connection and that the benefits from working from home do not outweigh the benefits from going into the office, where you engage with your colleagues, you see them at the coffee machine, you can pop into their office to ask them a question that is less rigid than an email.
Of course, this only works with social offices and somewhat social people. Some people can go into the office and still not see or talk to anyone. I’m not sure how much their happiness is boosted in this context.
But the separation of the commute (if it is a reasonable time) - super long commutes lead to unhappiness too. But that transition time often helps us close those mind loops from work and open to what is waiting for us at home.
A report in the USA suggested that getting rid of a one hour commute is the happiness equivalent of getting a $40,000 raise!
Interestingly, all the research shows that once your commute reaches three hours or more, then the negative effects wear off.
If you were one of the millions who pivoted and started working from home, I invite you to look at your day and your happiness levels. Are you as happy or happier as you thought you would be, working from home, having a little more autonomy in your day. Or has the hedonic treadmill caught up with you and you’ve reached your baseline again, now it’s just a new baseline, the one where working from home is the constant.
You can dive into the research in the show notes.
https://www.happinessresearchinstitute.com/ and https://www.42courses.com/courses/happiness
We are living this in real time, so if you have any thoughts on this topic, leave us a message @everydayhappinesswithkatie
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Wednesday Oct 12, 2022
Wednesday Oct 12, 2022
Continuing our conversation about behavioral contagions, this episode of Everyday Happiness discusses how we can use them to increase our happiness and the happiness of those around us.
Transcript:
Welcome to Everyday Happiness where we create lasting happiness, in about 2 minutes a day, through my signature method of Intentional Margins® (creating harmony between your to-dos and your priorities), happiness science, and musings about life.
I'm your host Katie Jefcoat, and in our episode yesterday, we discussed what behavioral contagions are and how they spread. Of course, I had to leave a bit of a cliffhanger to kick off today's conversation about utilizing those behavioral contagions for our benefit. What benefit, you ask? Happiness, of course!
According to a study performed by Nicholas Christakis and James Fowler, they “found that social networks have clusters of happy and unhappy people within them that reach out to three degrees of separation." The happiest people tend to be at the center of their social networks, with each happy person bringing greater happiness to the group.
So, how can you use this to improve your social circle's happiness?
First, I encourage you to look inward, and consider how your emotions are affecting others. By being aware of your emotional processing, you can recognize when a bad mood negatively impacts your group. With this recognition, you can take steps to remove the lousy mood by thinking of something else, sharing your feelings in a positive manner to come to a solution, or, in worst case, removing yourself from the situation.
Second, recognize how other people’s emotions are affecting your own. Is your friend’s bad attitude dragging you down? Are you growing feelings of resentment, anger, or annoyance at something that wouldn’t otherwise bother you because they are feeling that? When you recognize how someone else’s feelings are affecting your own, you can take an internal step back and separate yourself from those emotions to keep an unbiased, calm attitude. However, if you are happy and bubbly, go ahead and bask in it!
Third, consider what actions you can take to spread positive or happy emotions. Something as simple as smiling at a stranger, sending a kindness card, or cheering for someone can instantly change the atmosphere in the room. When you send out happy, kind signals, other people will reflect them back to you and others. Remember, a simple act of kindness sends a ripple effect out into the world. Why? As I always say, kindness is contagious. Do your part today by spreading a little more happy contagions today with some simple act of kindness!
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Inspired by this article in https://www.edge.org/conversation/social-networks-and-happiness
Tuesday Oct 11, 2022
Tuesday Oct 11, 2022
Did you know that you can reflect what other people are feeling without even realizing it? In this episode of Everyday Happiness, we explore what behavior contagion is and how it spreads.
Transcript:
Welcome to Everyday Happiness where we create lasting happiness, in about 2 minutes a day, through my signature method of Intentional Margins® (creating harmony between your to-dos and your priorities), happiness science, and musings about life.
I'm your host Katie Jefcoat, and You know the saying, "monkey see, monkey do." We know this phrase as a way to describe someone mimicking another, intentionally or not. Sometimes it is a child who wants to be just like dad, and other times it is an adult who acts as a mirror without even thinking. Scientifically, this action is known as behavioral contagion. Today, I am going to explore what behavior contagion is and how it spreads.
First, let’s talk about what a behavioral contagion is. According to the Encyclopedia of Social Psychology, “Behavioral contagion is the tendency for people to repeat behavior after others have performed it.” It is essentially mimicry but on an unconscious level. The definition listed examples of behavioral contagion as speech variables such as syntax, accents, speech rate, pauses, tone of voice, and behavioral variables such as gestures, mannerisms, and postures.
Wow, Katie, that’s a lot! What all does that even mean? Let’s break this down.
Behavioral contagions primarily work based on physiological cues. For example, it may be a subtle facial expression, a shift in body language, a flexing of a muscle, or even something as simple as laughter. We all know how contagious a good laugh is!
You may recognize it as also yawning when someone else yawns, tearing up when watching someone cry, or puking not because you are sick but because you saw someone else puke.
After conducting a behavioral contagion study, Sigal Barsade, associate professor at the University of Pennsylvania, said, "We aren't emotional islands…People are sort of walking mood conductors and we need to be aware of that."
However, it isn’t just physical. Behavioral contagions work on an emotional level as well. Studies have shown that emotional contagions can be both positive and negative. Feelings of enthusiasm, joy, and happiness can spread just as much as sadness, fear, and anger. For example, you know that one coworker at the office whose mood affects everyone? That, right, there is an epicenter for these contagions.
How deeply behavioral and emotional contagions spread depends on the trigger person. As unique people, we communicate how we feel at different levels, both verbally and physiologically. Some people can better transmit their emotions, even if they don't mean to. Going back to that coworker example. If you have one of those people in the office, they likely transmit their emotions easily, whether they mean to or not.
Now, if we can recognize this, can’t we use it for happiness? Tune in tomorrow to check out my episode on how to use behavioral contagions to your benefit.
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Inspired by this article in https://sk.sagepub.com/reference/socialpsychology/n60.xml#:~:text=Behavioral%20contagion%20is%20the%20tendency,fact%20that%20we%20copy%20behavior.
Monday Oct 10, 2022
Monday Oct 10, 2022
Is laughter the best medicine? How does laughter improve our happiness? Today we are expanding on a TED Talk with one big idea, that we can all make our world a better place one laugh at a time.
Transcript:
Welcome to Everyday Happiness where we create lasting happiness, in about 2 minutes a day, through my signature method of Intentional Margins® (creating harmony between your to-dos and your priorities), happiness science, and musings about life.
I'm your host Katie Jefcoat, and I was watching a TED Talk on changing the world with laughter. I’ll link in the show notes. The speaker, stand-up-comedian Greg Kettner believes that laughter gets us through life. Because “when we laugh we connect and when we connect, our hearts are open and when our hearts are open, the world is a better place.”
But the staggering statistics are that kids laugh up to 300 times a day where adults laugh only 17 times a day. He asks the audience a thought provoking question: do we not laugh because we are stressed or are we so stressed we don’t have time to laugh?
The big idea in this TED Talk was that we can all make our world a better place one laugh at a time.
I was thinking about this as it relates to happiness, because if you’ve listened for a bit, we know, happiness is not just emotions like laughing, but also purpose and satisfaction. It’s undeniable that one of the best ways to achieve fulfilled happiness is through social connection. See where I’m going with this.
When you hang out with your friends and you laugh the night away, how do you feel? My mom is a great storyteller and she tells the tales of her experiences and they are funny. She’s done some stupid stuff that she laughs about all the time. Everyone loves going to her house. If she’s had a few beers, she’ll “hold court” and people will be hanging on her every word.
My friend Sue, she lives around the corner from me. She’s like my mom. She’s got an arsenal of funny stories, sharing about life. We sit around her outdoor table, sometimes when it’s chilly, we bring our blankets, and we always laugh.
Laughter is a gift. It’s a gift we can give others. Not all of us are as gifted at inspiring laughter. But what a gift it is. Even in school, my kids can tell you who the funny kids are. They can also recognize the nuance between a class clown, a self-deprecating funny guy, a kind funny kid or the kid that uses others to get a laugh - which they know is a total turn off and needs to be stopped.
I think people want to laugh. They want to be prompted to laugh. It’s harder as adults, the research is undeniable. We need to laugh more. Perhaps we are intentional about finding our laugh tribe. Who is it in your life that brings laughter into your world?
Until next time, remember, kindness is contagious.
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Sunday Oct 09, 2022
Sunday Oct 09, 2022
Do you ever feel guilty for the things that DIDN'T get completed today, even when you did A LOT! This guilt can be detrimental to our happiness; tune in to find out how.
Transcript:
Welcome to Everyday Happiness where we create lasting happiness, in about 2 minutes a day, through my signature method of Intentional Margins® (creating harmony between your to-dos and your priorities), happiness science, and musings about life.
I'm your host Katie Jefcoat and I was talking to a friend the other day about how she was feeling pulled in every direction. No matter what she was doing, she had this enormous sense of guilt, that she wasn’t doing enough. She was feeling like crap that she left her kids to go to work, a job she loves and finds fulfilling, and she was feeling like crap when she was at home and constantly checking email - just in case something came in.
What we discovered was the root cause of her guilt was focusing on where she was not. Her head was full of guilt for the place her body was not. Her focus was off and she couldn’t shake it. Of course she was feeling pulled and completely out of control.
We talked about how, despite the 478 items on her todo list, she needed to get more sleep. I find that it is so much easier to tackle these emotions with a clear head when you are not starved for sleep. And so many of us moms are getting that dopamine hit by checking the boxes on the todo list at the expense of our sleep. In my opinion, that’s a mistake. When you are tired, everything feels harder.
We also beat ourselves up for the 3 of the 35 things we didn’t get done. We can’t focus on that. We need to re-frame how we talk to ourselves.
So when I was talking with this friend, we identified her priorities in this season. And it wasn’t like her family never matters, of course they do. But also, they are not so high that nothing else matters. That's not realistic. So we talked about this season. The harmony between doing and having it all.
What matters to you will be determined by the season you are in. So that you will be spending time on what matters most to you right now, knowing the season and your priorities will change.
So friend, this is your invitation to take a deep breath, go to sleep early, tomorrow is a new day and we were never meant to be robots, we were not created to do it all and that’s ok. I’m rooting for you.
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Saturday Oct 08, 2022
Saturday Oct 08, 2022
Ping! Ding! Beep! ALERT! All day long, we are constantly distracted by unimportant things. Today, we are discussing if distractions are distracting you from happiness.
Transcript:
Welcome to Everyday Happiness where we create lasting happiness, in about 2 minutes a day, through my signature method of Intentional Margins® (creating harmony between your to-dos and your priorities), happiness science, and musings about life.
I'm your host Katie Jefcoat and part of identifying your priorities is to also stop doing what doesn’t matter. What doesn’t actually make you happy.
I would guess most of us, myself included, could spend less time on our cell phones. You know, the little computers in our pockets that have been designed by multi-billion dollar tech companies to distract us every second of the day.
For me, I don’t even realize I’m looking at my phone half the time. It’s clinical. The science suggests we get a dopamine hit every time we get a ding notification, see an email or anything else on that phone. That’s why companies do it. It’s highly addictive.
Distractions might also be Netflix, social media (on the phone or not). Sometimes a distraction is what Christy Wright says in her book Take Back Your Time, that a distraction can be “making other people's problems your problem” Are you a helper by nature? Yeah, this is when she used the example of volunteering to coach her son’s soccer team because they didn’t have a coach, and she could technically do it - she had played soccer, she knew the rules of the game. So she said yes. And what happened, she didn’t like it. She was over-stretched and it wasn’t lighting her up. She didn’t have clear boundaries and she took on something that wasn’t aligned with her priorities in that season.
I invite you to look at your calendar and maybe even review the past few days or keep a note of what you do today and the next few days and look at where the distractions pop up for you. I think you’ll be surprised.
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