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Do you feel overwhelmed with your todo list? Is "creating fulfilling happiness" missing from that list? Everyday Happiness with Katie Jefcoat is here to help you. In 2-minutes a day, over time, you’ll discover how to reduce overwhelm and create lasting happiness through Katie’s signature method of Intentional Margins, happiness science, and musings about life. Start your day with a positive mindset. Many of us can get deep in the feeling of overwhelm. The anxiety of our own ambition can weigh heavily on our thoughts and emotions. We lay down and close our eyes at night and our chest begins to feel heavy. More items on the to-do list than the day before. How will we ever going to get off the hamster wheel of to-dos? When are we going to start living life for more than the hustle? As a recovering lawyer and passion driven entrepreneur, Katie knew something had to change. What she found is that you can have harmony, be intentionally productive and create massive impact, all at the same time - without feeling guilty. So she asked herself a simple question: "How can I get off the hamster wheel and how can I show others how to do the same? She knew she'd had a system for herself, but she’d never put it into defining words. On August 15, 2019, she sat down at her dining room table with her friend Jenna (her business bestie). Post-It notes covering the table. This is where she first defined the concept of Intentional Margins. What are Intentional Margins? INTENTIONAL MARGINS™ (n): A buffer of space and time to create harmony between your to-do’s and your priorities. Now you can get the support you need to manage your overwhelm, one little tip at a time. Regardless of the industry, Everyday Happiness blends inspiration with a pragmatic approach to finding Harmony. You'll be encouraged to throw “balance” out the window for a more achievable approach called harmony. Through Intentional Margins™, you'll be encouraged to develop what harmony means to you, by identifying your priorities at work and at home. Every day, we'll end the podcast help you feel equipped to jump off the hamster wheel of overwhelm and go out there and crush your day. --About the Host-- Katie Jefcoat is a community curator, speaker, author and motivator who supports ambitious women (and a few good men) move from feeling hectic to harmonious. As a recovering trial lawyer, she knows first hand what it feels like to have a demanding job. As an entrepreneur with a passion that lights her hair on fire and a busy family she’s in the thick of it with you. Many people strive for balance and think overwhelm is just a part of life. Sadly, the hustle culture and our never-ending to-do list is creating a life where our priorities are getting the leftover scraps of time. Katie introduces people to what she calls - Intentional Margins™ - a kind of life in which they reduce randomness, create harmony between their to-dos and their priorities and intentionally enjoy the meaningful parts of life - without feeling guilty. Without exposure to a different way, we remain stuck on the hamster wheel of to-dos and never find the “balance” we yearn for. Katie works diligently to expose her community to different ways of doing things, because she fundamentally believes we deserve to make time for our priorities. We deserve to live a life of harmony. And it’s within our control to create it. Katie curates a smorgasbord of content related to managing your calendar, handling overwhelm, setting boundaries, reducing randomness, saying no, self-care, the power of your choices, and more in her Intentional Margins™ Membership Community -- which she calls the coziest virtual coffee shop (on Facebook). Connect and learn more at www.katiejefcoat.com.
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Saturday Jan 21, 2023
Saturday Jan 21, 2023
The mind works in mysterious ways, and sometimes it gets things wrong. In this mini-series, we explore how our biases and misinformation can hinder our happiness. In today's episode, we discuss impact bias.
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Welcome to Everyday Happiness where we create lasting happiness, in 2 minutes a day, through my signature method of Intentional Margins® (creating harmony between your to-dos and your priorities), happiness science, and musings about life.
I'm your host Katie Jefcoat and I was listening to the Yale happiness course by Dr. Laurie Santos and yesterday we talked about this idea that our minds are built to get used to stuff, but what Dr. Santos says is even more nuanced is that we don’t even realize that our minds are built to get used to stuff.
This is problematic because the things we seek out that we think will make us happy, we think it will make us happy for a long time, but that’s simply not true, our minds think it will and we want to believe our mind, our intuition, but it’s scientifically not true. Dr. Santos calls this just an illusion. We think eating the 7th cookie will taste as good as the first, but it won’t.
Again, Daniel Gilbert and his colleagues came up with a word that describes this phenomenon that we don’t even realize that our minds are built to get used to stuff, and it’s called, Impact Bias. He says it’s “the tendency to overestimate the emotional impact of a future event both in terms of intensity and it’s duration”.
As I read that quote, I thought about the random impromptu brunch with friends that was so fun. There was no expectation. As opposed to a New Years Eve party, where there is so much expectation. I totally overestimated my happiness for the New Years Eve party and had no expectations for a brunch I had no time to think about.
So, why are we so bad at this? Why can’t we change this? Well, Daniel Gilbert has this term called Focalism. “The tendency to think just about one event and forget the other things that happen” in our lives. So we predict losing a job is the worst thing ever. But we don’t think about other things, like getting a new job, making new friends. When we focus on the one narrow thing, we mispredict, but if we can zoom out, and look beyond that moment, we can create a better prediction.
So, if you are feeling like something is going to cause great distress in your life. One way to counterbalance that, is to take a wider view of other things that may happen to tip the scales to the happier side of the coin.
Until next time.
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