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Do you feel overwhelmed with your todo list? Is "creating fulfilling happiness" missing from that list? Everyday Happiness with Katie Jefcoat is here to help you. In 2-minutes a day, over time, you’ll discover how to reduce overwhelm and create lasting happiness through Katie’s signature method of Intentional Margins, happiness science, and musings about life. Start your day with a positive mindset. Many of us can get deep in the feeling of overwhelm. The anxiety of our own ambition can weigh heavily on our thoughts and emotions. We lay down and close our eyes at night and our chest begins to feel heavy. More items on the to-do list than the day before. How will we ever going to get off the hamster wheel of to-dos? When are we going to start living life for more than the hustle? As a recovering lawyer and passion driven entrepreneur, Katie knew something had to change. What she found is that you can have harmony, be intentionally productive and create massive impact, all at the same time - without feeling guilty. So she asked herself a simple question: "How can I get off the hamster wheel and how can I show others how to do the same? She knew she'd had a system for herself, but she’d never put it into defining words. On August 15, 2019, she sat down at her dining room table with her friend Jenna (her business bestie). Post-It notes covering the table. This is where she first defined the concept of Intentional Margins. What are Intentional Margins? INTENTIONAL MARGINS™ (n): A buffer of space and time to create harmony between your to-do’s and your priorities. Now you can get the support you need to manage your overwhelm, one little tip at a time. Regardless of the industry, Everyday Happiness blends inspiration with a pragmatic approach to finding Harmony. You'll be encouraged to throw “balance” out the window for a more achievable approach called harmony. Through Intentional Margins™, you'll be encouraged to develop what harmony means to you, by identifying your priorities at work and at home. Every day, we'll end the podcast help you feel equipped to jump off the hamster wheel of overwhelm and go out there and crush your day. --About the Host-- Katie Jefcoat is a community curator, speaker, author and motivator who supports ambitious women (and a few good men) move from feeling hectic to harmonious. As a recovering trial lawyer, she knows first hand what it feels like to have a demanding job. As an entrepreneur with a passion that lights her hair on fire and a busy family she’s in the thick of it with you. Many people strive for balance and think overwhelm is just a part of life. Sadly, the hustle culture and our never-ending to-do list is creating a life where our priorities are getting the leftover scraps of time. Katie introduces people to what she calls - Intentional Margins™ - a kind of life in which they reduce randomness, create harmony between their to-dos and their priorities and intentionally enjoy the meaningful parts of life - without feeling guilty. Without exposure to a different way, we remain stuck on the hamster wheel of to-dos and never find the “balance” we yearn for. Katie works diligently to expose her community to different ways of doing things, because she fundamentally believes we deserve to make time for our priorities. We deserve to live a life of harmony. And it’s within our control to create it. Katie curates a smorgasbord of content related to managing your calendar, handling overwhelm, setting boundaries, reducing randomness, saying no, self-care, the power of your choices, and more in her Intentional Margins™ Membership Community -- which she calls the coziest virtual coffee shop (on Facebook). Connect and learn more at www.katiejefcoat.com.
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Thursday Jan 05, 2023
Thursday Jan 05, 2023
A tale of caution for writing happy moments…they can actually make you sad! Tune in to Everyday Happiness to learn why that is and what you should do about it!
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Welcome to Everyday Happiness where we create lasting happiness, in about 2 minutes a day, through my signature method of Intentional Margins® (creating harmony between your to-dos and your priorities), happiness science, and musings about life.
I'm your host Katie Jefcoat, and today I want to bounce back to Sonya Lyubomirsky’s book The How of Happiness for a second. Here on Everyday Happiness, we talk about writing gratitude lists and using writing as a form of happiness. As I thumbed through the pages, I paused on a note that had honestly slipped my mind, Sonya’s cautionary note on writing.
She says that while utilizing writing to foster gratitude and process negative feelings is all well and good, we shouldn’t use it to savor or relish the present. Her research has shown that writing is an inherently structured process that forces the mind to create a systematic narrative. While this is excellent for making sense of traumatic events and encouraging individuals to push past negative feedback loops, we don’t need to do that with happy feelings. Right? You don’t want to move past happy feelings; you want to hold on to them.
However, when you write about these happy feelings, it forces you to analyze them systematically. At worst, you may end up finding something in that process that makes you feel negative emotions, putting an end to that happy memory. At best, it will decrease your pleasure in the memory.
So, what should we do instead? Sonya advises that the best way to savor positive moments in the present is to reflect on the memory within your mind, relish those good feelings, and share them verbally with others.
Does this mean that we shouldn’t write gratitude lists? You should absolutely write them if they make you happy. But keep them short and sweet, not a novel. As for your daily diary, try to skip turning a happy memory into a story. Make a quick bullet point or note, and save the long-winded writing for negative emotional processing.
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