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Do you feel overwhelmed with your todo list? Is "creating fulfilling happiness" missing from that list? Everyday Happiness with Katie Jefcoat is here to help you. In 2-minutes a day, over time, you’ll discover how to reduce overwhelm and create lasting happiness through Katie’s signature method of Intentional Margins, happiness science, and musings about life. Start your day with a positive mindset. Many of us can get deep in the feeling of overwhelm. The anxiety of our own ambition can weigh heavily on our thoughts and emotions. We lay down and close our eyes at night and our chest begins to feel heavy. More items on the to-do list than the day before. How will we ever going to get off the hamster wheel of to-dos? When are we going to start living life for more than the hustle? As a recovering lawyer and passion driven entrepreneur, Katie knew something had to change. What she found is that you can have harmony, be intentionally productive and create massive impact, all at the same time - without feeling guilty. So she asked herself a simple question: "How can I get off the hamster wheel and how can I show others how to do the same? She knew she'd had a system for herself, but she’d never put it into defining words. On August 15, 2019, she sat down at her dining room table with her friend Jenna (her business bestie). Post-It notes covering the table. This is where she first defined the concept of Intentional Margins. What are Intentional Margins? INTENTIONAL MARGINS™ (n): A buffer of space and time to create harmony between your to-do’s and your priorities. Now you can get the support you need to manage your overwhelm, one little tip at a time. Regardless of the industry, Everyday Happiness blends inspiration with a pragmatic approach to finding Harmony. You'll be encouraged to throw “balance” out the window for a more achievable approach called harmony. Through Intentional Margins™, you'll be encouraged to develop what harmony means to you, by identifying your priorities at work and at home. Every day, we'll end the podcast help you feel equipped to jump off the hamster wheel of overwhelm and go out there and crush your day. --About the Host-- Katie Jefcoat is a community curator, speaker, author and motivator who supports ambitious women (and a few good men) move from feeling hectic to harmonious. As a recovering trial lawyer, she knows first hand what it feels like to have a demanding job. As an entrepreneur with a passion that lights her hair on fire and a busy family she’s in the thick of it with you. Many people strive for balance and think overwhelm is just a part of life. Sadly, the hustle culture and our never-ending to-do list is creating a life where our priorities are getting the leftover scraps of time. Katie introduces people to what she calls - Intentional Margins™ - a kind of life in which they reduce randomness, create harmony between their to-dos and their priorities and intentionally enjoy the meaningful parts of life - without feeling guilty. Without exposure to a different way, we remain stuck on the hamster wheel of to-dos and never find the “balance” we yearn for. Katie works diligently to expose her community to different ways of doing things, because she fundamentally believes we deserve to make time for our priorities. We deserve to live a life of harmony. And it’s within our control to create it. Katie curates a smorgasbord of content related to managing your calendar, handling overwhelm, setting boundaries, reducing randomness, saying no, self-care, the power of your choices, and more in her Intentional Margins™ Membership Community -- which she calls the coziest virtual coffee shop (on Facebook). Connect and learn more at www.katiejefcoat.com.
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Wednesday May 11, 2022
Wednesday May 11, 2022
Are you a “deal friend'' or a “real friend”?
Transcript:
Welcome to Everyday Happiness where we create lasting happiness, in 2-ish minutes a day, through my signature method of Intentional Margins® (creating harmony between your to-dos and your priorities), happiness science, and musings about life.
I'm your host Katie Jefcoat and I heard that there was a massive dip in happiness during the beginning of the coronavirus pandemic. But, 9% of the people got happier. Those people were the extreme introverts. Here’s the deal. We have a society that is mainly built for and run by extroverts. So a lot of society is extrovert driven. And it makes perfect sense that the happiness meter globally and certainly in the US took a big dip.
At the beginning of the coronavirus, 60% of people wanted to quit their jobs because they were so lonely and by the end 60% said they didn’t want to go back to work. You see, the happiness meter changed for so many people. The level of happiness we’re striving for, that bar has been lowered.
Historically, 60-year old men who were above average in income, who had big job titles were the loneliest of all the demographics of people. What they found is that they were around people all day, but not in meaningful connection. They didn't have strong social connections. But what we’re seeing is that it’s not just 60-year-old men, it’s spreading and it’s now infiltrating the rest of the population.
The point is that real friendship, intentional connection, deeper social connection with people matters. Matters more than we may realize.
Arthur Brooks says if we are wondering where our social connection is, ask ourselves. Do we have “deal friends or real friends” He says real friends are useless, but not worthless, they are useless and he encourages us to ask, are our friendships just a little bit too useful? Do we look around and can easily pinpoint the usefulness of the people around us?
You are useless to me, and I love you. Imagine that. It’s this idea that connection comes from the intimacy of friendship. I see those memes on social media, the idea that real friends come over and you don’t care if the house is a mess. Real friends are the ones that sit on the kitchen floor with you because that is there your toddler wants to play in the tupperware drawer.
So today, the message is simple. Real social connections are critical for happiness. When you have a social connection, you are less likely to be lonely. Now, this doesn’t mean you have to be an extrovert or be the life of the party. It’s just finding a few friends that are completely useless to you.
Until next time, remember, kindness is contagious.
Inspired by: Arthur C. Brooks on the Secret to a Happy Life | In Pursuit of Happiness
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XKdaU_amFxI
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