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Do you feel overwhelmed with your todo list? Is "creating fulfilling happiness" missing from that list? Everyday Happiness with Katie Jefcoat is here to help you. In 2-minutes a day, over time, you’ll discover how to reduce overwhelm and create lasting happiness through Katie’s signature method of Intentional Margins, happiness science, and musings about life. Start your day with a positive mindset. Many of us can get deep in the feeling of overwhelm. The anxiety of our own ambition can weigh heavily on our thoughts and emotions. We lay down and close our eyes at night and our chest begins to feel heavy. More items on the to-do list than the day before. How will we ever going to get off the hamster wheel of to-dos? When are we going to start living life for more than the hustle? As a recovering lawyer and passion driven entrepreneur, Katie knew something had to change. What she found is that you can have harmony, be intentionally productive and create massive impact, all at the same time - without feeling guilty. So she asked herself a simple question: "How can I get off the hamster wheel and how can I show others how to do the same? She knew she'd had a system for herself, but she’d never put it into defining words. On August 15, 2019, she sat down at her dining room table with her friend Jenna (her business bestie). Post-It notes covering the table. This is where she first defined the concept of Intentional Margins. What are Intentional Margins? INTENTIONAL MARGINS™ (n): A buffer of space and time to create harmony between your to-do’s and your priorities. Now you can get the support you need to manage your overwhelm, one little tip at a time. Regardless of the industry, Everyday Happiness blends inspiration with a pragmatic approach to finding Harmony. You'll be encouraged to throw “balance” out the window for a more achievable approach called harmony. Through Intentional Margins™, you'll be encouraged to develop what harmony means to you, by identifying your priorities at work and at home. Every day, we'll end the podcast help you feel equipped to jump off the hamster wheel of overwhelm and go out there and crush your day. --About the Host-- Katie Jefcoat is a community curator, speaker, author and motivator who supports ambitious women (and a few good men) move from feeling hectic to harmonious. As a recovering trial lawyer, she knows first hand what it feels like to have a demanding job. As an entrepreneur with a passion that lights her hair on fire and a busy family she’s in the thick of it with you. Many people strive for balance and think overwhelm is just a part of life. Sadly, the hustle culture and our never-ending to-do list is creating a life where our priorities are getting the leftover scraps of time. Katie introduces people to what she calls - Intentional Margins™ - a kind of life in which they reduce randomness, create harmony between their to-dos and their priorities and intentionally enjoy the meaningful parts of life - without feeling guilty. Without exposure to a different way, we remain stuck on the hamster wheel of to-dos and never find the “balance” we yearn for. Katie works diligently to expose her community to different ways of doing things, because she fundamentally believes we deserve to make time for our priorities. We deserve to live a life of harmony. And it’s within our control to create it. Katie curates a smorgasbord of content related to managing your calendar, handling overwhelm, setting boundaries, reducing randomness, saying no, self-care, the power of your choices, and more in her Intentional Margins™ Membership Community -- which she calls the coziest virtual coffee shop (on Facebook). Connect and learn more at www.katiejefcoat.com.
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Thursday Mar 17, 2022
Thursday Mar 17, 2022
When I heard this, I knew it was going to be a game changer - and it was. Ten simple words.
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Welcome to Everyday Happiness where we create lasting happiness, in 2 minutes a day, through my signature method of Intentional Margins® (creating harmony between your to-dos and your priorities), happiness science, and musings about life.
I'm your host Katie Jefcoat and I was thinking the other day about a tool that I use when I find myself stressing or ruminating about something with another person - and sometimes it’s just what’s going on in my own head that I need to check myself.
This tool was first introduced to me years ago by @BreneBrown. I can’t remember when I first heard it, I think it may have been a story in her first TV special, but I’ve shared this tool with so many people and it’s really helped me.
When you are feeling like someone is thinking something or something doesn’t feel right. A constructive way to approach that person is to say:
The story I am making up in my head is…
This gives you a chance to share your anxiety or feelings and also gives the other person a non-confrontational, non-judgemental space to reply.
For example. I texted a friend multiple times over the course of a week and no response. So unlike her. So of course, my mind starts spinning and I’m certain I did or said something and I can’t remember what and now she’s ghosting me.
I could say to that friend: Hey there, the story I am making up in my head is that I did something to upset you because I haven’t heard from you? Is everything ok? Is there something I did? This is my friend's opportunity to say, hey, yeah, there was this thing. But more likely than not, she’ll respond with, oh my gosh no, it’s so good to hear from you, thank you for being a consistent friend, I’ve just been caught up in my own things right now with kids, family, work, you name it.
But what happens if you’re anything like me. We ruminate. We second guess. We play stories in our heads that are not true. Those stories feed into our own insecurities. Friends, we don’t have time for this. My motto - if I’m going to make up a story, it better be good. And if I just can’t shake this feeling - it’s time to use my 10 magic words “The story I am making up in my head is” and get to the bottom of it - stat.
Let me know if you used this phrase by tagging us in social media stories or send me a message on social. We’d love to hear from you. And of course, subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts and come hang out with us on social over at @everydayhappinesswithkatie.
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